A letter to an unmarried couple



Dear Sue and Jim, ( an imaginary couple)

I’m writing to you today because I believe there is much confusion in our world…with many questions….. and everyone thinks they have the right answer. Lets cut to the chase. It’s about sex. It’s about how every one in our society thinks that having sex is simply an exciting, passionate activity to do between two people who “love” each other. It’s all good. Both parties enjoy it. No one gets hurt…in fact, one person gives a special joy to the other person, and vice versa. It’s the natural thing to do. When the relationship progresses to more intense feelings, hey, why not have sex? Right? Well, lets slow it down a little bit and think about the sixth commandment. You shall not commit adultery. You are not married…if you are having sex…it IS adultery. Sorry but its true. And Jim, if you just think about Sue in a sexual-sort of way, that is also adultery. Jesus said that Himself.  The passions that are stirred that lead to sexual arousal and intercourse are reserved specifically for married couples. Now I know what you’re thinking….”That is so old fashioned…this is 2012! We can do it when we want to!”  Not really. Oh, you can do it…physically…but morally, it is a sin and should be avoided at all costs. Also, there seems to be some disconnect about conception and having babies. If you have sexual relations, you and your partner may concieve a baby. If you and your partner abstain from these relations, there is a 100% chance that you won’t concieve a baby. Using a condom or taking birth control pills is not an option. Abstaining from sex is THE option. So unwanted pregnancy will not be a possibility for you. And because there will be no unwanted pregnancy, abortion will never be considered. Abortion is NOT a form of birth control. Although many woman today use it as such. “Woops! I got pregnant….better get an abortion!” Abortion is the murder of an unborn child. Did you hear me? Murder! And that’s breaking the fifth commandment.  Oh sure, there are many doctors and agencies out there who are very willing to take your money and kill your baby. Heck, in the United States, our president Barack Obama wants to force all businesses including Catholic churches to offer some kind of reimbursement coverage for abortions and contraception. And there are those who agree with him. Well, I don’t and I’m sure God is not thrilled about it either. So many unmarried couples procede to make their own rules and move into a “sexual” relationship, not realizing the consequences. Contraception is not allowed. It is a sin. Abortion is not allowed. It is murder and it is a sin.

Let go of earthly, human desires…latch on to heavenly desires. I know it’s difficult. But He wants us to be perfect as He is perfect. Do not allow the passions of pre-marital sex overtake you and put your eternity is jeopardy. And to those of you who think that “we’ll just get married so we can have sex, and then get divorced when we get tired of each other”. It doesn’t work that way. You get married for life. There is no other option.

I know we are human. We all are “with sin”….If you have committed these sins….and I’m not innocent either……let’s get ourselves to confession and really REPENT! Really turn away from our sins and turn back to God. He’s waiting for us.

Hey, as I always say….I didn’t make the rules………

Sincerely, in Christ.   Ron

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About ronfazio

I am Catholic from birth. But being raised Catholic didn't really help me understand the faith any better. A few years ago, I was called to learn more about our faith, to dig deeper. What I found was being Catholic is the best thing to be. It makes so much sense. It is not contradicted by the bible, and it is the church that Jesus created for us. I am so proud and happy to be a blogger on CatholicDaily.com.

2 thoughts on “A letter to an unmarried couple

  1. what if she is pregnant for me all already…..what advice will u give to me…..because i have decide to keep the pregnancy….what should i do for my sins to be forgiven…..pls relpy

    • Gab, first let me say, thank you for this question and for reading my blog. You are not alone. We are all sinners. I believe that if “she” is pregnant, and you are the father, you have committed a sin if you are not married. However, this is not the end…it is just the beginning. It is the beginning of your new life, your partner’s new life, and the new life of your child. Please go to confession and confess your sins. Encourage your partner to do that also. God’s mercy is endless and unfathomable and we are all forgiven if we ask for His mercy. Please, go speak to your priest and repent. Your sins will be forgiven. Next, please do not consider abortion! Although, it is “legal” in the eyes of secular law, it is totally illegal in the eyes of God. Do not compound your sin with another sin by getting an abortion. Committ to a marriage with your partner. Give her your love forever and be a good father to this child. You most likely felt totally committed to this woman on the night of conception, continue this feeling by marrying her and staying with her. Finally, commit your life to Christ. Ask for guidance from His Holy Mother, the Blessed Virgin Mary. Say the rosary every night asking for the grace to be a dedicated husband and father. You must ask for these things…and you will receive them. What’s done is done…it cannot be changed. I hope you and your girlfriend want this baby. Going forward, I ask that you do not succumb to thoughts of breaking up or divorce. Do not fall prey to the evils of Porn. Sure there are many more women out there…but you chose this one…and perhaps God chose for you and her to be together. I’m asking you to stay by her side and live a good clean life. I will pray for you, that this conflict can be resolved. God Bless you.

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